Thursday, October 22, 2009
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Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
I have no clue what difference it makes, but here they are - the first page of the letter and the entire second page. Must mean something to Kelly. Maybe she just wanted proof that they were written to me from Paul.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Bertha (also taken about 30 years ago - she has much shorter hair now - but still has the mustache!!):
If it does not work, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will send you the link - and, yeah, there is a certain irony in using that account!!! :-)
Friday, July 17, 2009
I do not understand why Kelly is showing up here posting - that is just asking to be the focus of the blog. If the blog is causing 'intense pain' one does not read it, much less post to it! And it is messing up the blog - I simply wanted to write a blog about the tactics married men use to cheat on their wives using a real life situation. I surely did not want to get into a pissing contest with the gullible wife. I never said I was perfect and that I did not make mistakes. That does not change the lies and tactics Paul used.
So, let's have a little background here. The type of background that I am sure Paul would not provide. The letters (actually, snarky stories) started as one of my final efforts to get Paul to let leave me alone. I was walking on a tightrope because Paul was in a 'position of authority' at work and I seriously felt like my job was in jeopardy if I did not handle it right. As I had been nice to him, Paul no doubt would have done EXACTLY what he is doing now - putting the blame on me (per the letter from the lawyer - Paul claims that I am angry because HE REJECTED ME!!!! Holy Shit Batman!!!!!!) I have never in my life pursued a man, much less a married one. And I sure as heck don't want anyone's sloppy seconds - or thirds - or fourths........
I thought I had finally gotten him to back off and quit telling me he was leaving Kelly (i.e. - he would agree to leave me alone by a certain date and after that date, he would disappear and quit contacting me) Well, it did not work. That certain date? Well, by that date Kelly was going to be out of the house and moved in with her mother. Of course it did not happen. (And yes, I have a whole series of emails on that. My blog is getting totally messed up - I had planned on following this whole saga in a chronological order).
You have no idea how I gagged when I heard that. I have never heard a more spineless thing in my life. Let me go back to my original postings -
What he really means: I ain't doing jack shit, but I'm still pulling stuff out of my ass because I want a piece of yours.
If he really meant it he would have said: I have an appointment with my divorce lawyer. No miracles needed.
So, what about those letters. I wrote a WHOLE SERIES of letters to get him to leave me alone. Letters about how lousy of a person he was, how rotten of a person I was, how crappy of a horse trainer he was, how awful he was at his job - you name it - I wrote it. Paul had told me early on how he did not like himself/his decisons/his skills critisized. So I thought that if I wrote stuff knocking down everything about him he would leave me alone. It did not work. He said that he knew I did not mean any of it and he would ALWAYS love me.
Let's look at the fact that Paul gave Kelly that letter. What kind of man does that? Most normal women want the type of man that would do whatever it took to protect them from any kind of hurt. That is what a real man does. Instead, he INTENTIONALLY gave her a letter (written to him for the purpose of getting him to leave me alone) to hurt her to protect HIMSELF.
Let me make this perfectly clear - PAUL GAVE KELLY THAT LETTER FOR THE SOLE PURPOSE OF HURTING HER TO GET HER TO DIRECT HER ANGER AT ME AND NOT AT HIM.
I wrote the letters/stories to get him to leave me alone. The letters were not meant for Kelly - Paul made the choice to hurt Kelly by showing them to her. What a man.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
I am not making this up.
So, I have been putting together my case the past couple of weeks.
Ironically, I am taking some advice Paul gave me awhile ago regarding someone bad from my childhood: "Don't let him win."
For some unknown reason Paul has singled me out and decided to try to mess up my life - first with the affair crap and now with this. And to think I was actually nice to the guy!!! Sometimes you just have to take a stand and say I've had enough.
Friday, June 19, 2009
So I took pictures of them as they left. They did not take pics of any other house and did not even slow up a little when they went by the houses that were for sale, so I do not think they were househunting.
Why would someone take pics of my house in the pouring rain and give me a dirty look? Am I being paranoid? I do not trust Paul or Kelly AT ALL. Especially after Kelly threatened me with her lawyer and Paul told me on several occasions that he thinks that the law only applies to 'stupid' people. What do you guys think?
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Ooops - that is Paul's fantasy - now for a dose of reality!
Yes, I did update my resume. And I did call everyone I knew to get a new job. However, I was looking for a job at facility 'C' and only C - Paul had no reason (other than one or two times a year) to go there. I even sent my resume to lots of outside companies. Anything to not have to work with him. It took a couple of months to get the new job and finally move. While I had to split my time 50/50 between the old and new job during my transition period, at least I was at a different facility. That new facility, by the way, takes longer to get to and is not nearly as nice as the one I left. I would have rather stayed at facility B, but C is MUCH nicer because Paul is not there!!! The interesting part about this whole thing is that I actually told Paul I was taking the new job to get away from him - he had the nerve to tell me that he was still dumping Kelly and was going to prove me wrong because he loved me and wanted to be with me because I was perfect for him. It was just taking longer than he expected to get rid of Kelly. Yeah - right.
Up next: so what does Paul do about my move???
Full disclosure - I was seriously considering looking for a new job (at any of the 3 facilities) because my boss - who was not supposed to be my boss when I took the job - was very 'inexperienced' and made some REALLY bad decisions (and still does). However, I was going to wait another year before I started looking..........................
To my readers - thanks :-)
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Saturday, June 13, 2009
It appears that your goal of communicating with the people who had input to the blog was for them to stop posting, you succeeded; however, if your goal was for me to stop blogging, you failed miserably. (BTW - the number of hits to this blog has NOT declined.) I will not stop just because you threatened me. Apparently Paul did not inform you that I don't take kindly to threats. Especially when I am right and know I did NOTHING wrong.
You know absolutely nothing about me except for what Paul has told you (think about that for a few minutes) - and in your desperation to justify your actions, you seem to have swallowed his crap hook, line, and sinker.
It is quite sad that you are the one attempting to contact me when Paul is the one who is totally and completely responsible. Any man of character would admit his mistake and not let you go through the anguish of contacting the person he tried to have an affair with - how humiliating for you!!! But that is Paul - nothing is his fault and he is the victim of everything. No doubt his ego is being boosted as you vainly attempt to silence me. And he is the one responsible!!!!!! A real man would not do that. But then again, a real man would not have lied to try to have an affair with me.
There is very little that you can say that will stop me. Threats are the stupidest thing you can try. Women need to know how low a man will go to try to get sex with them and use them. They need to be armed with the right questions and know what actions to look for (words can be such pretty things, but mean NOTHING if they are not followed up with concrete actions).
Thursday, June 11, 2009
-the ides of March is simply the 15th day of March . No more, no less. From reading your comment on that I really do see that you can only see the negative side of anything from your eyes. You are full of bitterness and hate. I am sorry that you see yourself as a vicitim.
I am praying for you.
Beware the Ides of March is from the play of Julius Caesar - my comment was not negative - just a neutral observation. This reference to 'backstabbing' is well known in literature. Paul did tell me that you do not read books, so your lack of knowledge about this is understandable.
Where do I say I was a victim? Do you really think that 'snarky commentary' is bitterness and hate?
....and for your education of others on how to avoid a married man persuing (sic) you (since this is the point of of your now edited blog)
The point of this blog (which has NEVER changed): "I had never encountered a married man who cheated before and was fascinated by the audacity of the lies he told to try to get me to have an affair with him. This blog will cover some of his bullshit. And will serve as a warning to others - what signs to look for and see if they are really serious or are just playing games." Not the same as how to avoid a married man pursuing you. You missed the point completely.
1. Do not participate. Period. Do not email. do not text. do not 'consider dating' them after they are divorced. Be strong enough to NOT engage. All marriages have problem times.
Conflicts with MY stated purpose of the blog, but works well with your version of it. Paul did not say your marriage had problems - he said it was completely and irreversibly dead - and had been for years. He said there was no hope of ever it working out ever and the only thing left to do was the paperwork.
2. Do not divorce your husband to be with someone else's and then be bitter
Strange comment, but excellent advice. I certainly agree.
3. Do not 'blog' publicly with your 'on-line diary' which just points the finger at the other person when you had a choice to not be involved. You admit to being 'curoius' about how far it would go, and then where (sic) hurt when it stopped? WTF? Talk to a girlfriend. Airing dirty laundry is nothing but hurtful. Yes-note the time of my comment (like my text)....this has me not sleeping.
WTF? is right!!!!! But to follow your theme - How does not blogging publicly stop a married man from pursuing you? Does this mean that only women who blog will have a pig chasing them? I did not blog before Paul chased me so using your logic he should not have chased me. What about before the internet existed - why did men pursue then??? So many questions.... BTW - Paul aired your dirty laundry, not me.
I find it interesting that once I did contact you about this blog that you edited it. Changing Paul Linn to Paul L. and removing your photos about your endurance ride?
???I cannot change the name of the blog. Yes, I removed two posts (only one photo) - they were not part of the blog - they were only there to let the people following the blog know that I was gone for awhile - they had served their purpose. What nefarious reason do you assign to me for removing them? and BTW - I have edited it before too!!!!! And I'll edit it again if I want to. Never to change the content - just to clarify something better.
I am sorry that you find so much pleasure hurting others.
Exactly where did I say that I found pleasure in hurting others?
Oh! and the comment about my mother? Not nice.
Wait till you hear what Paul had to say about your mother - THAT'S really not nice. I was just commenting on what he said. And I agree totally - it was awful!! And I do mean AWFUL.
Again, you are in my prayers.
People who say that 'you are in my prayers' think that they are morally superior and are quite condescending. So quit it. Pray for yourself instead. You need help way more than I do.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
One of the ones I tried to post actually proved once again how Kelly lies.
It was addressed from Kelly to Mack and had something along the lines of 'she wouldn't even look me in the eye and just slunk away'.....and something about 'telling her that I was writing about her on the internet'........referring to a horse tack sale I went to where Kelly was also.
Well, this is what had Kelly texted me (right after the 'Learn more' text):
So which one is it Kelly - did I refuse to look at you or did I look you straight in the face? You can't have it both ways.
Mac - if you have Kelly's comment, I sure would appreciate you recreating it - thanks. I want to make sure my facts are straight.
So here is the situation - I went with a friend to a tack sale in March and Kelly was there. Awkward situation. What the hell did Kelly expect me to do - walk up to her and make a scene? The friend I was with went up to Kelly and talked to her - I did not. It seemed like the most prudent thing for me to do at the time. I neither slunked by nor looked her straight in the face. I glanced over at her, continued to look at the sale items and left with my friend - that is MY recollection of the event.
Does ANYBODY think it would have been appropriate for me to have approached Kelly at the tack sale?
BTW - As my friend and I were leaving the tack sale, Kelly trotted out of the building looking for me - she ran right to the truck as we were pulling away. Based on her comments it seems like Kelly wanted to make a scene.
Not the right place to ask questions, tho.
Damn right it was not the place for questions!!!!! If Kelly had truly wanted to talk to me she would have picked up the phone and called me months ago. Period.
Sunday, June 7, 2009
Please read comment from Kelly/ 'Ides of March' on last post and my comment - then this will make sense .........................................
Kelly's first sentence in the comment section:
What I wanted to discuss with you was the removal of this blog.
This is what Kelly texted to me last month in response to "For what purpose?" (She had said 'Interesting blog. Meet to discuss?')
She starts out with the snotty "The obvious" - as if I can read her mind and know her motives. She then goes on to say "Learn more." But in her comment on the June 6 blog she says she wanted to discuss removing the blog.
Note to Kelly - if you want to have any credibility at all - DO NOT START WITH AN OBVIOUS PROVABLE LIE!!!!! People have a really hard time believing ANYTHING you say or being sympathetic to your cause if you lie to them. 'Learn more' does NOT mean 'removal of this blog' - it means the opposite. You wanted more information. And I provided it. If anyone else thinks that 'learn more' means 'remove blog' - please enlighten me.
It is beyond decency. I TOTALLY agree. What your husband did is beyond decency. How nice that we can find some common ground.
I am absolutely SICK over the content and tone of this blog. Me too! Another point we have in common. What your husband did is absolutely disgusting. And I have barely scratched the surface of what he did!
Who finds joy in posting things like this? Who is finding joy?
Your blog is set to strike out at others, not to educate as you claim. Don't tell me what my blog is set to do. Apparently you have not read the entire blog and its comments. Just ask Annaliisa. She is finding it helpful - as do others. There are plenty of assholes like Paul out there - I think it is helpful to know what to look for and what to do.
Why not write in a diary? Good idea (yet another thing we agree on - damn - we could be best friends at this rate!) - this is like an online diary of sorts - with an educational bent.
Why post this publicly? To educate - read the beginning of the blog - it is clearly spelled out.
This whole thing is filled with partial information to hurt and show spite. Wow - and how did you come to that brilliant conclusion? From Paul? The liar? The one who has something to lose - like his house? A POA every night? Oh please. Your husband has EVERY REASON to lie. What reason do I have? I never planned on you or Paul reading it, so why would I lie? If I had wanted to show hurt/spite I would have posted the link to this blog on every local board around here as well as COTH. I then would have posted about the time Paul had his dick out while standing on the side of the road trying to convince me to have sex with him. That would have been to show hurt and spite. You really should have thought that comment through. Are you really stupid or naive or desperate enough to believe what Paul says? Really pathetic.......
What about all the e-mails and texts that you sent my husband? What about them? There is nothing that I have done that I am ashamed of - I would LOVE to hear how Paul explains (lies about) those. Bring 'em on!!! No doubt he has you convinced that I was pursuing him and he was helpless against me.
Yes, we have them. Oooooooooh - So what? Somehow this sounds like a veiled threat - what do you guys think? And it sounds rather sick - your husband is trying to screw me and 'we' have my emails and texts?? I'm sorry, but that just sounds so totally fucked up. Readers - please help me out here - what do you think she is trying to say?
.What "uninterested" single woman does that for months?
Months??? You are truly sad. Is that what he told you? You think 'months' is a lot? Did you think I would say it was weeks or days? Sorry - Paul chased after me for a year and a half!!!! (Damn - that is a long time - time just seemed to slip by!!) Again - if you had read the blog you would have seen where I clearly stated that I would have considered dating him only if he had been telling the truth about divorcing you and actually got the papers. (Note to readers - ALWAYS get the papers first - absolutely no exceptions - I don't care if his mother-in-law is on her deathbed - they are just lying in an attempt to use you and are desperately trying to buy time)
He is the one who told me it was a HUGE mistake to marry you on the rebound from his other wife and he was regretting it and that he was miserable with you. I was VERY clear from the first day that Paul told me he loved me and wanted a realtionship with me that I WAS NOT INTERESTED IN A MARRIED MAN. What part of that do you not understand?
Paul is the one who persisted in telling me that he wanted a relationship with me - the only thing I am guilty of is wondering how creative he would get in his lies to me about divorcing you. I told him repeatedly that I was NOT INTERESTED IN A MARRIED man - we had some very interesting arguments where Paul told me he was divorcing you and I told him he was full of shit. He tried his damndest to convince me he was dumping you (papers first ladies.....)
Paul chased me - DEAL WITH HIM - I guarantee he'll do it to you again, and again, and again.
Before Paul decided he (desperately) wanted to get in my pants, I thought he was a nice person and considered him a good friend (BTW - he is universally hated at work - I thought he was just misunderstood - boy, was I wrong). He came across as considerate, witty, and hard working and in early conversation implied he was totally miserable with his life - later on he told me straight out that he was miserable and you were the reason. I'll post that email sometime. It was ALL lies to manipulate me and gain sympathy/trust. He is not the man I thought he was - he is just a POS.
Why do you post negative comments about me? What do you consider negative?
Why did you threaten me with your lawyer? Guess you found out pretty quickly you had NO CASE. By the way, on that phone call, you told me you would never contact me ever again and to never contact you - not that I ever would - 'I have nothing to say so talk to my lawyer' you said - and yet, here you are posting on my blog. Also, I bet you feel pretty stupid trying to fake me out with making your phone call a 'restricted' call - your number came through every time you texted me. And, just so you know, I have known your cell number for a long time - so it was pointless all around.
Interesting note - why on earth would anyone choose as their screen name (ides of march) something that means 'backstabber'? That is creepy in itself!
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Well, Kelly has decided to become part of the story by threatening me with her lawyer. So let me start with the beginning of this arc.
Note the time of the text!! The only other person to annoy me with text messages in the middle of the night was her husband, Paul. He would let me know he was missing me (yeah, right) or to tell me that he was flying out of town the next morning. Yes - it did annoy me and I DID tell Paul that I did not care where he was going and that he should be telling that crap to his wife - not me. Anyhow, I get this text from her.
My first thought was "You have got to be kidding." My second thought was "You have got to be kidding." My third thought was "You have got to be kidding." Is she crazy? Why on earth would I want to discuss anything with her?
So, I text back during normal waking hours:
"For what purpose?"
I can't imagine what the hell she would want from me - it is pretty obvious from my blog that I can't stand her husband. And I found it hard to believe that she found it 'interesting.'
The only place I would have met her would have been at the police station after they frisked her for weapons. (Paul had told me that she was prone to violence when she was angry - and I would not take a chance in case he was actually telling the truth).
IMO she was up to no good. And, just like her husband, she proved me right with her stupid, childish phone call to threaten me with her lawyer.
Next: What she claimed she wanted.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
"Truth" is an absolute defense against defamation. See New York Times Co. v. Sullivan, 376 U.S. 254 (1964), and Time Inc. v. Hill, 385 U.S. 411 (1967). Consequently, a plaintiff has to provide convincing evidence of a defamatory statement's falsity in order to prove defamation.
The law does not require that a statement must be perfectly accurate in every conceivable way to be considered "true." Courts have said that some false statements must be protected for the wider purpose of allowing the dissemination of truthful speech. The resulting doctrine is known as "substantial truth." Under the substantial truth doctrine, minor factual inaccuracies will be ignored so long as the inaccuracies do not materially alter the substance or impact of what is being communicated. In other words, only the "gist" or "sting" of a statement must be correct.
The substantial truth defense is particularly powerful because a judge will often grant summary judgment in favor of a defendant (thus disposing of the case before it goes to trial) if the defendant can show that the statement the plaintiff is complaining about is substantially true, making the defense a quick and relatively easy way to get out of a long (and potentially expensive) defamation case. "
"In Virginia, the elements of a defamation claim are publication of an actionable statement with the requisite fault on the part of the defendant. To be “actionable,” the statement must be a false statement of fact that harms the plaintiff's reputation in the community or deters other persons from associating with him or her. "
Monday, June 1, 2009
It had to be done on my terms, or it would never work. We were making me feel like a complete failure. So I "ended it".
"We" were making me (Paul) feel like a complete failure???? WE?? What planet is he on? I told the AH to leave me alone while (if) he took 'care of business' (ie - get a divorce) and I am making him feel like a failure? Is he crazy? His terms: give him a POA on the side while he continues to tell me he is getting a divorce - any minute, just wait and see...... (Reality: the holidays were coming and I wanted to be with the people I really cared about.....you are not one of them)
Ended 'it'??- Paul makes it sound like as if we were dating - only in his sick, twisted mind!!!
BTW - Paul IS a failure - as a husband, father, son, friend, employee, boss, co-worker, trainer, human being etc.
And this was his reason for starting - yet again!!
It (ending it) was much easier at first, I guess because I was angry. But you were always "there" - always on my mind. Little reminders everywhere. Looking at news stories and laughing with you. Thinking of all the things that make you you and made me fall in love with you. Wanting to be with you.
Angry? I tell him to do the right thing and he is angry at me? What a guy - trying to make ME feel guilty. Wanting to be with me? Yeah right - he goes home to his (clueless) wife everyday and thinks I am stupid enough to believe he has asked her for a divorce. Earth to Paul - when your unemployed wife is publicly making plans for the upcoming horseshow season (that takes lots of $$$) that is a clue that she has no plans to move out. How dumb does Paul think people are? Or, the reality of it is, how dumb does Paul think I am?
If he really meant it: If a man TRULY loves you, he will move heaven and earth to make it happen - no matter what. When a man tells you it has to be done on 'his terms' and he does nothing but flap his gums and try to make YOU feel guilty - RUN! They don't give a shit about anyone but themselves.
Up next - the 'divorce' list.
To the people who do not like this blog - DO NOT READ IT IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT!!!! No one if forcing you to click on it.
To the person who is texting me in the middle of the night - please grow a spine and call me during the day - otherwise, leave me alone. You obviously have my cell number and I have no clue what you are really trying to say/ask. Your messages are contradictory and I don't feel like answering you in 160 characters or less.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
At EXACTLY midnight, I got a message from Paul!!! "Happy New Year" A simple one to be sure, but a message nonetheless. Actually, I think the real message was the fact that he sent it to me at the stroke of midnight and I was supposed to think that he was all alone thinking about me. What a crock of SHIT!.
Now that the holidays were over, he could start his pursuit again. And boy did he start.
I had heard horror stories about married men chasing after a POA, but this was INSANE.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Monday, May 11, 2009
(Don't know why this pic insists on being sideways - LOL) .
I know what I want. I know what I need 2 do 2 have it...........
I got this text after I told him to shit or get off the pot - he was the one who declared that his marriage was LONG over and he was getting a divorce. I sure as hell did not pursue him. He could not have it both ways. From the very start he kept telling me that he wanted me (hahahaha) and that he ALWAYS got what he wanted. Who doesn't like a man who gets off his ass, gets busy and gets stuff done?
So, the VERY NEXT NIGHT I get this message:
Knowing what I know now - it would not surprise me if he took his ring off when he thought he might run into me. He is that much of an AH. Typical cheater.
Work has been a beast these last 2 months............... :-)
Monday, March 30, 2009
He lies so easily - when I saw the preview on the website he denied he was going. It then showed up on HIS website - when I called him on that, he claimed that it was MY fault it was on his website. Paul actually had the nerve to tell me that he posted it on his website because I pointed out to him that it was on the Ohio Equine Affaire website!!!! Uh - Duh - wouldn't HE have to sign up for it for them to put it on their website?? I don't think they randomly put exhibitors on it without their permission/knowledge.
OK, so 3 days after he tells me he is is not doing well, he is back to telling me he is thinking about me (walking by the water and holding hands no less - isn't that romantic??) and loves me. He writes this to me while he is on a trip all the way across the U.S. Hmmmm, he's away from Kelly and thinking about cheating on her. Wonderful!!! What a guy. He is no closer to divorcing her or anything close to it. What a nut.
I need a break. And wow - I get one. This guy really is psycho. I always love to get blamed for something I didn't do. Up next: The library.
Friday, March 13, 2009
to do the things I want to at this point (be with you) – not while there are still loose ends here and things that need to be discussed and decided on as far as who gets what and how much and all that stuff.
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
God I miss u.
U R more beautiful everytime I c u.
It would b real hard 2 put n2 words how much I love talking 2 u.
Wow - he is laying it on thick now that he has informed me that Kelly is packed and ready to go!!! He's not getting any though - no matter how much he might want it! lol
I told him point blank (in the 'beginning') that I was not interested in a married man. He is trying his hardest to convince me that Kelly is toast and he wants a relationship. Why don't I believe him - or why should I??? Men like him are a dime a dozen.
As I posted, Paul claims that Kelly is moving out and makes up this really stupid story that she is packed up and ready to go. So I keep pushing - I wanted to see what would happen. He probably thinks that he will 'get some' if he says the right things. Hence, all the txt messages about how much he loves me and misses (???) me. What an idiot. I realize that he must only date/marry women who are stupid/desperate enough to believe his BS. He is WAY out of his league. I just know that he is going to make it seem like he is a victim and can't help the situation he is in.
FYI - I do keep telling him over and over that I am not interested in a married man - he keeps telling me that he is leaving Kelly. In no way am I leading him on. I continue to push him away - he is quite persistent.
So I keep asking. After all, HE is the one who is intently pursuing ME (where have I heard that before?? lol) and trying to convince me that he is leaving Kelly and not your typical POS married SOB.
The sad part? Imagine if you were Kelly and your husband was sending messages like this to another woman. Horrible. Even if she did pursue him intently and he married her on the rebound and it was a huge mistake - or so he claims!
Monday, March 9, 2009
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
So, I posed that question to him.
As expected, the pathetic excuses began:
"Yes, Kelly knows I want a divorce; I just have to do this my way. She must not know that I have found someone else, so I need to take my time with this otherwise she will take my house away from me in the divorce and make me pay her alimony. I worked my whole life to get this house and I am not going to let her take it away from me so I need to take it slow"
Holy shit!! OK - this is Virginia, not California where there is an automatic 50/50 split. You get to keep what you had BEFORE the marriage. Paul had the house years before he ever met Kelly. She never paid a dime towards it - in fact Paul sent her to college (although she conveniently never got a job) so she should be able to support herself and not receive alimony - much less get the house. The college she went to was expensive - I should know - I got my MBA there. Of course, I actually work for a living (and my company paid a portion of it).
I then asked him if he went to a lawyer to see if this could happen. Naturally he said he was too busy.
Next post: just how fabulous is this house that a 50 year old man has that he worked so hard for? It should be a mansion - or damn close to it. And what other surprises are there with this house?
Friday, February 27, 2009
You know, if this guy had been single and sending me these messages, I would have been THRILLED!!!! However, he is not single. Therefore, these messages are SICK! Imagine what Kelly would feel if she knew that her supposed 'loving husband' is writing emails and text messages (and sending letters, post cards, and voice mails) to another woman.
What he really means: I think women really like to hear this shit, so I will lay it on really thick. Maybe I'll get some.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
What he really means: I'm getting desperate here to convince you - I'm starting to pull stuff out of my ass. I still fuck Kelly on a regular basis but I want some action on the side because I am bored with her.
If he really meant it he would have said: I have moved out.
Friday, February 20, 2009
Wow - after he informs me that his parents don't like his wife, he then tells me that his daughters also don't like Kelly.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
What he really means: I have to say I don't know what he was trying to convince me of here - he threw his parents under the bus for hating his wife.
If he really meant it he would have said: Nothing. It's none of my business.
Friday, February 13, 2009
she has me. And, to tell you the truth, I don't want to have
anything to do with her anymore. Especially sex. I work
late at night because I can't stand the thought of
coming home to her. I get angry just seeing her car at home. " Oh puleeeeeez. What was really insulting was that he actually thought I would buy this crap!
"I'm still trying to process all this. I mean, I've never really thought about all this in this way, putting pieces together to form a bigger picture. Right now I feel pretty stupid. And used. And very angry. " I bet he never put the pieces together this way - Paul was just trying to figure out what lies to tell me to get me to believe him. As my daddy always used to say - 'Trust but verify'. And I sure could easily verify that Paul could not be trusted. Absolutely fascinating. My curosity was certainly piqued as to what BS he would pull next in his relentless pursuit. He certainly was following the textbook on what to look for in a man who cheats.
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
"I put her through school" ...Works PT for her best friend.." But doesn't get paid!!! LOL - the jokes on you, sugar daddy!
"Kelly has methodically pushed my farm away from what my passion always was and now I don't have room/time for what I want to do." Wahhhhh - poor boy - and you have no control on what happens at YOUR farm do you??? .
clear to me that my needs or wants are pretty low on her priorities list." And by your chasing after me, it is pretty clear that her wants or needs are pretty low on YOUR list!!! No wonder she does what she wants and couldn't care less if you are upset by her spending your money.
Monday, February 9, 2009
Wow - he slams Kelly pretty quickly to convince me that he is going to leave her. I simply asked him how long he had been miserable with Kelly - he said from even before they were married!!! And why would he be so stupid to marry her if that were true?
"Kelly used sex to get what she wanted. Me" Talk about an ego.
"She pursued me rather intently" And what a prize Paul turned out to be.
"she cheated on him" Sounds like Paul and Kelly are perfect for each other - Paul has a well known history of cheating on his wives. And he sure tried to cheat on her with me!!!
And who wants a man who will so readily share such sordid details?
Friday, February 6, 2009
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Monday, February 2, 2009
"My wife and I don't have sex anymore - she is just not interested in me and I am divorcing her"
Hahahahahahahaha (I couldn't believe he pulled that tired old card out of his pocket)
What he really means: "I am totally bored - we fuck, but it's not exciting"
Saturday, January 31, 2009
What he really means: "I am going to see how much I can use you before you realize I have NO intention of leaving my wife"
If he really meant it he would have said; "I have an appointment with my divorce lawyer next Tuesday at 3PM"