I do not understand why Kelly is showing up here posting - that is just asking to be the focus of the blog. If the blog is causing 'intense pain' one does not read it, much less post to it! And it is messing up the blog - I simply wanted to write a blog about the tactics married men use to cheat on their wives using a real life situation. I surely did not want to get into a pissing contest with the gullible wife. I never said I was perfect and that I did not make mistakes. That does not change the lies and tactics Paul used.
So, let's have a little background here. The type of background that I am sure Paul would not provide. The letters (actually, snarky stories) started as one of my final efforts to get Paul to let leave me alone. I was walking on a tightrope because Paul was in a 'position of authority' at work and I seriously felt like my job was in jeopardy if I did not handle it right. As I had been nice to him, Paul no doubt would have done EXACTLY what he is doing now - putting the blame on me (per the letter from the lawyer - Paul claims that I am angry because HE REJECTED ME!!!! Holy Shit Batman!!!!!!) I have never in my life pursued a man, much less a married one. And I sure as heck don't want anyone's sloppy seconds - or thirds - or fourths........
I thought I had finally gotten him to back off and quit telling me he was leaving Kelly (i.e. - he would agree to leave me alone by a certain date and after that date, he would disappear and quit contacting me) Well, it did not work. That certain date? Well, by that date Kelly was going to be out of the house and moved in with her mother. Of course it did not happen. (And yes, I have a whole series of emails on that. My blog is getting totally messed up - I had planned on following this whole saga in a chronological order).
You have no idea how I gagged when I heard that. I have never heard a more spineless thing in my life. Let me go back to my original postings -
What he really means: I ain't doing jack shit, but I'm still pulling stuff out of my ass because I want a piece of yours.
If he really meant it he would have said: I have an appointment with my divorce lawyer. No miracles needed.
So, what about those letters. I wrote a WHOLE SERIES of letters to get him to leave me alone. Letters about how lousy of a person he was, how rotten of a person I was, how crappy of a horse trainer he was, how awful he was at his job - you name it - I wrote it. Paul had told me early on how he did not like himself/his decisons/his skills critisized. So I thought that if I wrote stuff knocking down everything about him he would leave me alone. It did not work. He said that he knew I did not mean any of it and he would ALWAYS love me.
Let's look at the fact that Paul gave Kelly that letter. What kind of man does that? Most normal women want the type of man that would do whatever it took to protect them from any kind of hurt. That is what a real man does. Instead, he INTENTIONALLY gave her a letter (written to him for the purpose of getting him to leave me alone) to hurt her to protect HIMSELF.
Let me make this perfectly clear - PAUL GAVE KELLY THAT LETTER FOR THE SOLE PURPOSE OF HURTING HER TO GET HER TO DIRECT HER ANGER AT ME AND NOT AT HIM.
I wrote the letters/stories to get him to leave me alone. The letters were not meant for Kelly - Paul made the choice to hurt Kelly by showing them to her. What a man.