The Holidays are Coming

So, Thanksgiving and Christmas were just around the corner. I wondered just how the Paul would handle that situation. After all, he had been telling me he loved me, how much he wanted to be with me, and how life was too short to waste with people you don't care about (one of Paul's 'life lessons' he learned from his dead horse Calvin). So, if that were true, who would he want to be with during the holidays? After all, if he hated Kelly and couldn't even stand the sight of her the way he claimed and loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, wouldn't he want to spend the holidays with the ones he loved? That was his "Calvin" philosophy.

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Well, as I knew he was lying about wanting to be with me, I was curious as to how he was going to handle that situation. He did not disappoint.

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It was the middle of November and I got my usual phone call from him (probably his 10th of the day to me) on his way home (he always called me, I only called him on work related stuff) and we were in the middle of a conversation about the pros and cons of a construction project and he just hung up on me. (He claimed later the connection was lost).

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And that was it. Suddenly no more phone calls, no text messages at 2am, no more emails. He fell of the face of the earth. (No loss there!!! LOL)

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Anyway, due to work I had to call him a couple of days later. And I asked him what happened. He hems and haws and finally says that he thinks we MIGHT not get along (WTF???) so he said he was no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with me, but didn't feel the need to tell me. He's an even bigger AH than I thought.

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OK - so even if the horse squeeze he was telling me were true, what kind of a man does that?

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I do not hear from him for about 6 weeks - so guess what happens AFTER the holidays? So predictable.

Missed one.....

I realized that I left out a part that happened a couple of weeks after Paul declared he loved me and that he wanted to be with me.......
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(Don't know why this pic insists on being sideways - LOL) .

I know what I want. I know what I need 2 do 2 have it...........


I got this text after I told him to shit or get off the pot - he was the one who declared that his marriage was LONG over and he was getting a divorce. I sure as hell did not pursue him. He could not have it both ways. From the very start he kept telling me that he wanted me (hahahaha) and that he ALWAYS got what he wanted. Who doesn't like a man who gets off his ass, gets busy and gets stuff done?
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So, the VERY NEXT NIGHT I get this message:
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Tonight we talked. She is leaving when she finds a place. My left hand is bare.

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Wow - is that convincing or what? Sounds serious to me. Here is a man who makes shit happen!! Jackpot!!!

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However, a little voice inside my head kept saying "let's see if she REALLY moves out" or is he just making this crap up? I always give someone the benefit of the doubt, but I do realize that most men are just out for NSA sex.

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Knowing what I know now - it would not surprise me if he took his ring off when he thought he might run into me. He is that much of an AH. Typical cheater.
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What he really means: Women take this ring symbol stuff really seriously so if I take my ring off, she'll think I really mean it and maybe I'll get 'some'.

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If he really meant it he would have: Called his lawyer and made an appointment on xyz date.

Work has been a beast these last 2 months............... :-)

Ohio Equine Affaire

Heads up - Paul is at the Ohio Equine Affaire this week - if you are there stop by and say Hi to the jerk. Interesting to note is that he said he was not going there - especially with Kelly (it is near where Kelly's family is from - he says she is from 'the West Virginia part of Ohio') He calls her a West Virginian because he claims that she is sorely lacking in the hygiene department and is a slob.
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He lies so easily - when I saw the preview on the website he denied he was going. It then showed up on HIS website - when I called him on that, he claimed that it was MY fault it was on his website. Paul actually had the nerve to tell me that he posted it on his website because I pointed out to him that it was on the Ohio Equine Affaire website!!!! Uh - Duh - wouldn't HE have to sign up for it for them to put it on their website?? I don't think they randomly put exhibitors on it without their permission/knowledge.

Holding hands by the water

I was walking around outside around the waters edge and watching the couples and, of course, thinking about you and I walking around, holding hands and laughing and talking. I know you are amazing, and I know I love you.

OK, so 3 days after he tells me he is is not doing well, he is back to telling me he is thinking about me (walking by the water and holding hands no less - isn't that romantic??) and loves me. He writes this to me while he is on a trip all the way across the U.S. Hmmmm, he's away from Kelly and thinking about cheating on her. Wonderful!!! What a guy. He is no closer to divorcing her or anything close to it. What a nut.

I need a break. And wow - I get one. This guy really is psycho. I always love to get blamed for something I didn't do. Up next: The library.

The Expected Turnaround

.I need to tell you that I’m not doing real well. I feel sick to my stomach and like my heart is going to explode. Most parts of my life have pretty much fallen to the wayside. It is just not within me to continue like this or
to do the things I want to at this point (be with you) – not while there are still loose ends here and things that need to be discussed and decided on as far as who gets what and how much and all that stuff.

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Ok - he came on to me and now HE is not doing well??? WTF does that mean? Does this mean that he really doesn't hate his wife as much as he claims? Does it mean that it is not over with her? Continue like what? What a bunch of horseshit. He knows that he has no intention of divorcing Kelly and is trying to buy time.

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When he first told me that he was interested in dating me I told him that he needed to take care of things at home first because I don't go out with married men. At first Paul said that he and Kelly had been over for years and it was just a simple task to end things and he did not need any time. Yeah - right.

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It sounded like a new tactic to me. I told him to call me when he had his shit together. In Virginia, that would mean about 6 months. I wondered how long it would be before he contacted me again. I knew that if and when he did that Kelly would still be there and nothing would have changed - he would just have another stupid excuse/story.

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Next: 6 months?? How about 3 days?

Campaign mode

I Love You. You are unlike anyone I have ever known-so right.
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IMY. Badly.
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God I miss u.
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U R more beautiful everytime I c u.
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It would b real hard 2 put n2 words how much I love talking 2 u.
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LY!!!
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Wow - he is laying it on thick now that he has informed me that Kelly is packed and ready to go!!! He's not getting any though - no matter how much he might want it! lol
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I told him point blank (in the 'beginning') that I was not interested in a married man. He is trying his hardest to convince me that Kelly is toast and he wants a relationship. Why don't I believe him - or why should I??? Men like him are a dime a dozen.
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As I posted, Paul claims that Kelly is moving out and makes up this really stupid story that she is packed up and ready to go. So I keep pushing - I wanted to see what would happen. He probably thinks that he will 'get some' if he says the right things. Hence, all the txt messages about how much he loves me and misses (???) me. What an idiot. I realize that he must only date/marry women who are stupid/desperate enough to believe his BS. He is WAY out of his league. I just know that he is going to make it seem like he is a victim and can't help the situation he is in.

FYI - I do keep telling him over and over that I am not interested in a married man - he keeps telling me that he is leaving Kelly. In no way am I leading him on. I continue to push him away - he is quite persistent.
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So I keep asking. After all, HE is the one who is intently pursuing ME (where have I heard that before?? lol) and trying to convince me that he is leaving Kelly and not your typical POS married SOB.
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The sad part? Imagine if you were Kelly and your husband was sending messages like this to another woman. Horrible. Even if she did pursue him intently and he married her on the rebound and it was a huge mistake - or so he claims!

He must be serious

Got a text message:

"Got home and the house has her packed boxes all over"

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OK - so Kelly is packed and ready to go. Even the pictures are off the walls. Later he told me that Kelly is going to move in with her mother. Boy, that sounds like he is serious to me!! I just knew he was not a piece of shit like every other married guy who says he is going to leave his wife. hahahahahahaha. I was just waiting for the punch line. He did not disappoint.

The "Mansion"

I have never been to Paul's house. However, throught the miracle of the internet, you get to see all kinds of stuff. This is the 'mansion'. This is the culmination of Paul's life dreams. (Paul has a VERY well paying job I might add - He bought this in his late 30's / early 40's.)

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This is what is known in real estate lingo as a 'starter home' - usually for people under the age of 25. It is approx. 1,000 sf, built in the 60's, and has few ammenities. It is also located near a rock quarry and tons of trailers. I am not picking on trailers (or starter homes) - but rather the fact that Paul talked like he is living in a place like this http://www.downunderhorsemanship.com/ranch/ but the reality is so different.

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The thing that bothers me the most about this is the trash at the front door, the broken window, clogged gutters and the general lack of maintenance. All those things reflect the values of the owner. How 'bout them 4 dogs? What about that fencing?

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OK, enough of that. What's up with the trailer on the property?? This is where it gets interesting. One of his ex-father-in-laws lives there!!! Paul could not afford the home (around $50K about 11 years ago) and had his to have his (then) father-in-law help buy the property. What is really bizarre about the whole situation is that the ex-wife visits all the time and is trying desperately to get Paul back!! Wow - who wouldn't like THAT situation????

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It gets even more bizarre - this particular ex-wife had an affair while married to Paul (there is an ongoing theme here) and got knocked up by one of the guys Paul works with. She told Paul that he was not man enough to get her pregnant and then turns around and she gets an abortion!!!! WTF??? He told me he NEVER even wanted the two kids he has; what made her think he wanted any more? She divorced him because she didn't think he was much of a man - why the hell does she want him back???? He hasn't changed one bit.

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I do believe Paul when he says that this ex wants him back because she actually tried to get a job working in his department to be near him - SICK!!!

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This situation is so weird - it proves the saying "Truth is stranger than fiction"

Let the excuses begin!!

OK, so Paul had made it clear that it is over with Kelly (and has been for a long time), his family hates her, he has taken off his ring, and he has asked for a divorce. So, what would any normal person expect to happen? I would think that at this point Kelly would be looking for a place to live. I certainly would - I would not want to be with someone who made it clear that they did not want me around.

So, I posed that question to him.

As expected, the pathetic excuses began:

"Yes, Kelly knows I want a divorce; I just have to do this my way. She must not know that I have found someone else, so I need to take my time with this otherwise she will take my house away from me in the divorce and make me pay her alimony. I worked my whole life to get this house and I am not going to let her take it away from me so I need to take it slow"
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Holy shit!! OK - this is Virginia, not California where there is an automatic 50/50 split. You get to keep what you had BEFORE the marriage. Paul had the house years before he ever met Kelly. She never paid a dime towards it - in fact Paul sent her to college (although she conveniently never got a job) so she should be able to support herself and not receive alimony - much less get the house. The college she went to was expensive - I should know - I got my MBA there. Of course, I actually work for a living (and my company paid a portion of it).
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I then asked him if he went to a lawyer to see if this could happen. Naturally he said he was too busy.

Next post: just how fabulous is this house that a 50 year old man has that he worked so hard for? It should be a mansion - or damn close to it. And what other surprises are there with this house?

#5 Clue I Love You

You know, if this guy had been single and sending me these messages, I would have been THRILLED!!!! However, he is not single. Therefore, these messages are SICK! Imagine what Kelly would feel if she knew that her supposed 'loving husband' is writing emails and text messages (and sending letters, post cards, and voice mails) to another woman.

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Someone I have a lot of respect for.

Paul has no respect for anyone - what asshole thinks it is respectful to tell a woman that he loves them while he goes home and supports/fucks his wife that he claims to hate???

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I can't even count the number of text messages that had ILY, IMY or I can't wait to see what the future has for us. Emails by the score about what we were going to do when he got rid of his horrible, selfish, self centered wife.
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What he really means: I think women really like to hear this shit, so I will lay it on really thick. Maybe I'll get some.

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If he really meant it he would have texted/emailed: I have filed for divorce and the papers will be finalized by xyz date.